I grew up in a house where it was all about my mom and by that I mean she was a straight up narcissist. The end result was that, (not-to-brag-much) I have become a bit of an expert in boundaries! Boy did I learn how to set those suckers up in every type of situation. Well it has come to my attention now that SURPRISE TWIST my father is ALSO a narcissist? How does one child get so #blessed!! (Listen folks, if I didn't sarcasm I'd cry, which obvs I've also done I'm an energy healer not a toxic masculinasist.) The following is a technique I created for when I've slipped into giving my power away to him. You can use this in preparation for any situation where you are giving your power away, even if that person is super nice! If you were intimidated by Mr. Rogers and made yourself small around him you KNOW he'd want you to be coming to him with your fullest self. Oh, Mr. Rogers! Anyway, here it is:
Meditation for Feeling Yourself Around Anyone
Close your eyes.
Imagine yourself about 5 feet in front of you and you're standing next to the person in question (If you think you can't imagine this tell yourself NOT to imagine it and that should conjure yourself up pretty well.)
Take this in for a minute. How do you look and feel? Do you look smaller than them? Are you trying to merge with them? Are you trying to get away? Whatever it is, do your best to just observe it.
Take a breath. Let that image go for a moment.
Think of a time when you feel your most comfortable. You don't have to feel powerful, just comfortable and at ease. Maybe you're hanging out with your partner or your best friend. Maybe you're alone in nature. Whatever it is, put that feeling in your body. (It may take a moment, that's okay.)
Once you have that in your body well, look back at yourself standing next to the person. If you immediately feel tense, come back to yourself (not in the image) and put the feeling back in your body. Do this as many times as you need to until you can feel yourself with that feeling in your body next to the person. You can take as long with this as you need. And if you can't, that's fine too! Try again when you're up for it.
This may be all you can do for today. If this is enough for you, take that image of yourself feeling comfortable next to the person and bring ONLY YOURSELF comfortable into your space and merge with it. Fill up with gold light and..ya done!I
If you want to go on, you can do the next step:
Now imagine a time when you felt your most powerful. Feel into that. And then repeat the step above until you can feel powerful next to the person. Merge, fill up with gold light and ya nailed it! I mean, ya done! You know what I mean. I hope this helped! Let me know if you did it, I would love to hear how it went for you.
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